One of the most challenging things you can encounter in a committed relationship is learning your partner has been unfaithful. Hearing this news can bring up many feelings, from anger to sadness to frustration. It can be challenging to navigate your emotions and figure out how you want to move forward with your partner – one day you may want to try to make things work, while the next day you never want to see them again. These feelings are only natural in this situation, and there are many factors that can cause further confusion, such as living arrangements and children.
When you learn your partner has been unfaithful, intense emotions begin to emerge. Maybe you are struggling with shock and anger, and you may be asking yourself…
These thoughts are natural. Often we don’t know how to feel or what to do with our emotions. But what most may not realize is that infidelity is more common than you’d like to think. Family and Marriage Therapists report that infidelity is a common problem in committed relationships, whether it’s emotional or physical infidelity.
According to a report conducted by the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 25% of men and 15% of women have experienced intercourse outside their relationship. That number increases by 20% when emotional and sexual intimacies without intercourse are included. Therapists also report that the majority of relationships experiencing infidelity can become stronger and more intimate after couples therapy.
Discussing the “why” behind the infidelity and taking the time to understand how this happened can help rebuild trust in the relationship. Working together with a therapist can help understand your partner deeper, build awareness to your partner’s emotion, and identify underlying problems that may have contributed to the infidelity.
You and your partner can rebuild your relationship and learn to reconnect on a deeper level through infidelity counseling. We can work together to resolve the hurt and guilt, identify underlying issues, recover intimacy, and address concerns, especially trust and emotions that are involved in this difficult time. By putting in the time and effort, your relationship can be rebuilt to the way it once was or better. Evidence-Based therapy techniques like the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Trauma Informed Therapy will be used throughout your therapy sessions to begin the healing process and facilitate growth from within your relationship.
You and your partner don’t have to separate – there is hope on the horizon. Rebuilding your relationship is possible, and with the right tools, you can get past this hurdle. My role is to help couples navigate their life together after infidelity and establish a healthy relationship that is free from jealousy, frustration, and anger. You and your partner don’t have to suffer in silence. Infidelity counseling can help you find hope and recover from the devastation of unfaithfulness.
Are you interested in scheduling a therapy session? Whether you’re interested in a 60- or 90-minute session, we can find a time that works best for you and your partner. Contact me today!